Perhaps he would consider reading the free treatment e-book (look in the treatment guide for it) and also consider adding some 'attend time' to his schedule. I am better than begging and I am tired of it. She used to tell me, (when speaking of my husband), "I liked him, he never BOTHERED ME", and would praise him for leaving her alone, unlike her other children who " needed" her, as children DO. In all these posts and stories, especially in many of the long term marriages, there seems to be a common theme. He is scared about his health lately. I told him I am sick but he tells me to get rest and took off to entertain himself. Hearing him speak kindly of other folks, being gentler in his speech, since he KNOWS how unkind the world can be. Lately he finds more reasons than not to leave the house to help someone else anybody else. Once in a while he says hello but its almost like it never happened. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Thu, 04/13/2017 - 16:22. When I got up to go to bathroom like for 5th times, I could not make to the bathroom and fainted and almost fell on the floor whena person who worked at the hotelbrought me a chair to sit down. Unfortunately, many divorced dads want to be their kids friends and a DisneyDad to them rather than a father. I love(d) H, and love (past, present and future)our children, our grandchildren, art, my business, my home. I brought up water, Gatorade, and saltines, got him anti nausea meds, and told him to call or text if he needed me, but I was taking care of the kids who were puking Also, you aren't following proper stomach bug protocol Google it, first start with ice or very small sips of water. But I'm still keeping out of the way and limiting the inconvenience. Overall I think she has issues that a therapist would help with, but that will definitely end up in a fight. An the cycle continues. He said it was too clinical and she was cold. So many of the situations seem so crazily familiar. Ihave neglected you. I have been enlightened and no longer feel alone. (Statements I've heard dozens of times, and heard again this week). Would she normally kiss you before going to work? Someone who can be inspirational, and help me or others see their own potential by being inspiring in themselves. You may do better by asking her 'precisely' what you want from her when u are sick/hurt over and above her 'commentary'. Thank her sincerely for doing these things to you inspite of her 'reservations'. I know when I'm sick, I freak out about being a burden & not pulling my weight. Bring her gatorade, soup, crackers, etc. And your wife mightve been Your spouse or partner carries on as if nothing is happening while your inner world has changed mentally and physically. It s supposed to make me feel better because it s not just me. Female here sick and tired of whiny twats like you. If there IS, it's usually in a complaint or verbal assault on someone or something, that irritated him, again, "at the moment". My cough doesnt produce anything other than an exsmokers clean up. I WISH I was kidding. After I broke my foot, the Orthopedist put me in a non weight bearing cast. My husband works hard and takes good care of me and our big family. He is Always the "Victim" and Everything is Always My Fault! It's "his" problem, and it's mostly a "focus" problem he thinks. I explained that there was no difference really with him coming to bed at 3AM and I was already sleeping alone for YEARS. Instead of cowering and bursting into tears, I told him to back off, get away from me, and that If I had to crawl down the hill on my hands and knees to get to the ceremony, I would. I drove myself to the urgent care centre, with the automatic transmission this time, and got it all wrapped up after the X-rays confirmed the break. He will do things like say "You are not sick!!" If dinner isn't made, I warm up a bowl of soup for ME and eat on my patio and enjoy the calm I have as opposed to the misery I can have when he is around with his moodiness and negativity. OMG. You cant expect people to stop. H's definition of love is thisafter I asked him "What does love mean to you?" I'm taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, making meals. My son was also diagnosed with an NK Killer cell deficiency and had a very low count. WebI love my wife. This marriage has changed me, first for the worst and now finally for the better. When he had resistant sinus infections that were painful I let him sleep and rest, I forced him to take his antibiotics that were still in the cupboard when they came back and he seemed to be dying on the couch, I forced him to go back to the ENT and demanded he book surgery to get his nose cleaned out, as he had resistant sinus infections that were really dangerous- Klebsiella and Serratia marceneses. Lets look at the options: 1. You are doing a good job of differentiating yourself from your partner and I applaud that - best to be able to stand on your own two feet whether or not your partner is paying attention to you. But at the end of the day if it is really bothering you well then you need to talk to him about it and tell him how it made you feel. Submitted by jennalemone on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 14:09. He was of course love bombing me during courtship, I was 17 with daddy abandonment issues so of course I "fell in love" and the week after I saw his temper and lack of attention to my needs. He appears not to care youre pregnant and youre feeling unsupported. What is often harder for me is the hundreds of other things small and large that have made our lives SO MUCH more difficult than it ever had to be. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. He was disgusted. I'm curious to see a female's perspective on this, especially someone who has been married to see if this holds true. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:19. Of course. I think many spouses with ADD are extremely selfish and will never realize that a healthy relationship requires compromise, compassion, and patience. I'm feeling better now! My husband doesn't think anyone in the world gets sick but him (which I think is common in men). Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 22:58. Reach out in an inviting way. WebIm worried about my chest pain. Love. But, again, that is in the "now", but what about the "not-now"? Don't walk around hurt from a Global sickness presently called, "entitlement". I often hear that if a person wants to be with you, they will. Kathy woke-up startled to hear her phone ring so at 5 am. Anyway, I got way off track here. I grew up in a house where you were basically quarantined when sick. I agree. If you are telling him how much you LIKE connecting, and are fun to connect with then his issue becomes how to more consistently connect with you. You are not important. Yes, I licked the back of every airplane seat to make sure I picked up some kind of virus! 2 yrs ago I was in a serious car accident. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. It is obvious that ADD people rarely change for any measurable amount of time. And although I don't think I have verbalized it completely just yet, I KNOW that THIS is the total crux of MY difficulty with H. We LOVE differently. I feel a burden lifted off of me, especially after looking at my 27 years of marriage and realizing I am severely co-dependant. Make sure that the timing is convenient for both of you. H, has two basic emotions, FEAR and ANGER. I learned about myself and learned some hard lessons. I want to say Thank you for sharing your story. Just the feeling at the moment. This means you may think it's obvious when you need a hug or some connection, but they may not 'see' it. Talk to her and use 'I need" statements. No wonder folks with ADHD have built up some walls. This has been validating. Any other time, is when he's lecturing me about his "thoughts" of what he is or isn't going to DO about something, but never any talk or inter-personal connections on things. I feel like crap so I have no plans of running errands. I scrolled through my phone contacts and one name popped out, an old mutual friend of ours. Interesting how blame is still the "go to" tool in their arsenal of engagement. She can't fix it if she doesn't know. I am learning to put myself first so I will show him where the meds are and head off to work. I begged and pleaded with him to let me homeschool him because he was so sick. Those of us who marry into it, with the person NOT thinking their ADHD is that big of a deal, create a lot of consequences for themselves AND for us, since in marriage "two become one". First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! I had to call my mother to take me.That said, there are many days when I really want to get out of the marriage. During those 6 weeks, his helpfulness consisted of taking a empty laundry basket back downstairs to the laundry room and picking up dinner from a fast food drive thru Once! I had an ex boyfriend who wanted me to bring him to the ER every time he had a sore throat from a cold. Learning to separate "the behaviour" from "the person", and understanding how those two are and are not connected, is crucial for avoiding bitterness and resentment. Clearly you know it's a problem and you're still in that relationship and most likely going to have kids with him yourself and then act like oh no poor me I still got married and had kids with the guy that's treated me like crap since day one. He is loved by many, not evil. But you dont care. My In-laws and husband were there, along with our daughter. I wish he'd just admit he''s not the handyman he thinks he IS. If you need help, I will cook dinner". I know the empathy is in there, but it's overridden by the rest of their experience and the onslaught of perception they constantly have to sort through. Submitted by copingSAH on Mon, 09/29/2014 - 09:42. Several years ago they broke their foot (minor avulsion fracture) by twisting their ankle, requiring several weeks with a boot and wrap to recover. Stay away from me!" Been married 13+ yrs and anytime I am sick, according to him I act like I am dying. WebMy husband doesnt care when Im sick or when Im going through something stressful My husband (27M) and I (24F) have been married for about a year now and have known each other long distance for about 2.5 years. I, ME, MINE!! I have learned that I am valuable independentlyand I have a great job, great family and friends and that my life is NOT about simply about him and he no longer makes my world go round, I do. That put yourself in these situations and then wonder why things happen to you. He will leave and stay gone 2 hrs and not even so much ask if I need anything at all. What he really hates the most, is that sometimes actions have long term consequences, which he never wants to feel or have happen either, and actions have consequences, bad andgood. Then he kept telling me I was going to be alright. Iris is also an Invisible Illness Warrior. (maybe?). Confirmed. I was trying to do something simple. People are either takers or givers. Or begging him to drive you home. Being in a constantly defensive state (as are the chronic blamers of the world) means ADHD adults can become really good at detachingand awful at attaching. His answer was absolutely not. Well, this time, I was calm, I got out of the car and changed my mind but he told me to get back in. Because you are doing it and should own your behavior. Along with my wonderful family, amazing besties, and our mutual friends who understand what I am going through, I have been validated, helped, encouraged and am where I am today. All I had to do was pay for the meal prep, and pick up the meals. in Psychology. That's why the 'pursuit' or 'in your face' strategy that you are using fails. I invite him to things I know he will say no to just to be nice but then I go and enjoy myself. Everyone desires someone to pay attention to them from time to time, without having to demand it or schedule it . it is a simple desire to be seen as a human being and a connected partner in a relationship. Maybe a spouse is a lousy caregiver, or just as sick if not sicker; maybe you never noticed till now that certain local family members are better at receiving than giving. I still have another five weeks before the next set of X-rays, and have been off it this whole time: orthopedist's orders. No words. His answer,"Something you enjoy. That is when a person is the Somewhere, there's a breakdown, a distortion of what he's entitled to, verses what he thinks he deserves. I was "out of commission" for 6 weeks. Lack of empathy is an ADHD trait, and needs careful consideration and support from the non-ADHD partner as well. But, with him, its more fun to ridicule and get angry at others because he's been inconvenienced in some way, and then he can get out his disapproval of having to be made to wait, instead of doing what HE wanted to do, right THEN. Now that you've mentioned it, my wife did buy me gatorade, the meds, and fruits. I was a great person, still am as are you. They are more important than you are. The reception was held at a house, in he back yard. That can be very hard to do! Run!!! You don't want to marry a man with kids, trust me. All this crap about his kids "coming first" is just thatcrap. When you marry, the two I always try hard to take care of everybody when they are sick, including my spouse. The texting got out of hand and the rest is history. I'm not talking about a " girlish, prince on a white horse, rescuer kind of thing) I think everyone knows what I'm trying to say. I only wanted to make things easier on myself, for three nights a week. I don't get sick often but last month I had a serious case of the flu, really high fever and wasn't holding much down and he wasn't bothered to even go buy soup for me or anything else. I had started a new job so I could not take him to get his surgery, but I did leave work early, come home and take care of him, make chicken soup, the whole deal. and my child will throw up or have a fever. I had to pay out of pocket to see a naturopathic doctor trained by ILADS(it is the best training for Lyme disease and tick borne infections treatment.) This goes so deep. I like what Melissa said earlier, about becoming the person our husbands fell in love with. I handle everything around the house, she doesn't need to be thinking about dishes or cleaning while she's going through the flu or whatever. My husband responded to me that if I went on medical leave I would have to stop seeing my doctor because he wouldn't pay for it anymore. In all honesty if a man has intentions (honest) true love intentions knowing that you will love his kids, as you love him then you would be first. She doesn't care that I am in pain because she feels my feelings are unfounded. God forbid that I ever get anything serious. My memories hold no feelings of love because I am not experienceing them right now. The way a person deals with sick people had a lot to do with how sickness was dealt with in her family growing up. And I also have to include.I have a very low toleranceto this kind of behavior!! Submitted by DependentOrigination on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 10:32. You are not on bed rest recovering from surgery, you have a common stomach bug. They ruin too many peoples lives. I have learned from him that I have always mothered him and even though I am awesome, I have given so much with littleeffort in return because he is hyperfocused on his priorities. Submitted by Exhaustedlady87 (not verified) on Fri, 11/15/2019 - 16:54. And we would just keep saying hurtful things to each other. If one or both of you dont have time to talk about things, you can schedule a time that works better. When I had the flu really bad my kids did too and I still had to take care of everybody. My "H" is 100% total Narcissistic! My husband would blame me for ruining his life. I occasionally get teary about it, my feelings were so hurt. That is not an ADHD trait as far as it is with me? I can not tell you how much I can relate to you and everyone else that has posted. (he can't) He pinches pennies, in trying to fix something that he's usually broken himself, but then it ends up costing us double or triple in do-overs. I know some have stated this, others have said the opposite. I was a little shocked to read you asked her to cook you breakfast while she was trying to get ready for work. I could reclaim myself so to speak and put myself out there in the relationship but unless my H admits to the effects of adhd in the marriage and takes concrere steps tofix it, I don't expect another outcome. Even worse when these DisneyDaddys, lol are looking for a life partner, the first thing that they rub on your face is the: my kids come first b.s. Imagine that. Gosh, feel better! I think the non spouse has to be less of a giver and move to the attitude of-I'm in this life for myself just like you demonstratedaily that are in it for yourself. I did it again. How would he manage without me, his Bandaid? When I confront him about what I'm thinking about how he acts, he becomes defensive and gets angry. I will not call for a man when I am sick. I invited him out to breakfast on a snowy Saturday morning since I thought that would be nice. And here is my confession, for I fall short of a Marvel superhero. Thank you for reminding me that it's me and my wife with each other now. He called me unsubmissive and unchristian. But it only works if it's recent. What? I was treated for cancer a few years ago & this really threw things into sharp relief. You dont care about my illness. If my husband had a stomach bug that lasted a few days and he didnt go to the doctor I would probably be like your wife too. That is my H 100%! I can't help but think there is SOMETHING ELSE WRONG WITH HIM. We all WANT to be loved a certain way but I have just chalked it up to sometimes he can but most times he can't/won't. I can see how the advocated plan/tricks might work to create connection. In the first instance, you get his buy in. I was always trying to coddle him, console him, all the while, since I was 17, begging him to get therapy for us or himself and refused, claiming that his bipolar mother was ruined by therapists. AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally To the average person we are a perfect couple, our friends know the struggles and even when I am not present they can only take him in doses, bless them. 2022 Mighty Proud Media, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to Of course, the more the therapist learned, the more it just reinforced what he already knew. I agree with Truth..his kids come first. Later Ilet him know I am very sick and need some help. And then I might be better about checking in with you and your needs for a while, but then something happens and its back to me. We went to the diner and my life changed. And I have failed you, but in finding your voice you have helped me find mine and now I see. My ex didn't have ADHD. ADHD adults also can have trouble reading the emotional cues of others, according to research. Boy did we cry. You should absolutely not expect to be treated as a child by your wife, and don't put your wife in the roll of your mother. It CHANGED ME, and I'm not who I used to be. Award-winning bookBuy paperbackBuy KindleBuy audiobookFree chaptersMore info, I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. Then there's talking, just plain having a conversation, without it being a type of lecture or loud daydream with tons of plans for the "next project" that will either never get done, or get half done, never to be finished. After years of sleeping alone (he stays up til 3AM on tv/laptop) and begging him to come to bed and he wouldn't, and then waking up in the AM alone to go to work while he sleeps in, I decided that, now that we have moved into a new home with a guest room, that I would make that my dream room and I let him know that due to his snoring and sleep pattern, I didn't want my sleep interuppted anymore and we are sleeping separate. Its your life not theres. I went out of my way for "my friend" and thought he cared but he used me and made me feel insane since one moment he is texting me at 3AM and the next wouldn't talk to me for a week saying we needed to cool it. You know all the important things. It makes your partner retreat - the opposite of wanting to connect. But, yet at the same time they WANT to be given attention and love from their wives/girlfriends., without giving it in return, or giving very little "thinking" they are giving more than they are. He did - but was very angry and mean about it. And for this, I am truly, deeply sorry. Maybe I was expecting something like that. Terms. I always wished I had the guts to leave him but the codependencykept me there. I decided then to leave. That's not even in my nature. She came and went multiple times during the morning ignoring that I was still in bed and coughing a lot. Submitted by vabeachgal on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 18:15. I guess what i m saying is although the strategy may have a great chance of success for some, there isn't any upside in my case. I handle everything around the house, she doesn't need to be thinking about dishes or cleaning while To us I should say. He has No responsibility for any of his behavior or actions. He was so sick he couldn't even think well enough to do his homework. And my mother ( the other one with ADHD who I got it from? Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:36. If there's not arguments over dumb shit then something is wrong. It was horrible since I did it secretly. She was probably raised in a household without empathy for sick people. But in the end, that doesn't matter either. Submitted by adhd32 on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 13:56. I have taken you for granted. So if you want to connect, you will likely be the one to have to bring it up. Duped again. He is so sick and depressed. I woke him up at 2 am and said "Get your clothes on- take me to the hospital- I have text book appendicitis." Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 16:40. Follow this journey on Living Without Limits. Its pretty normalized at the point. Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. You may want to reflect on your needs when you are sick as an adult. We don't have kids yet. (not a good sign). Qualities many w ADDdo not possess. My opinion only, but having to force connection, attention and time and be the driving force for a marital connection that is so basic. well, that seems hollow to me also. I'm not sure about what's being discussed about men. Best Sex Positions to Improve Your Sex Life. Like, my sympathy well was pretty shallow when I had 2 sick kids and a sick husband. Thats But, he can't get past the victim hood yet.). If you ever became terminal, he would run for the hills. So, again, it's about him. Do you always expect your wife to cook everything? I will keep that in mind. That's great! After my surgeries, I couldn't do ANYTHING. I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. You love me. Submitted by The Bride (not verified) on Mon, 07/13/2020 - 04:33. Empathy, love, and Gatorade are amazing to have, but the rest is all you. I drink a gulp of beer and a stoke of cigar and really feel love..for that moment. But the AD/HD is so strong, it overrides that. Our daughter just had surgery overseas. Wanting to CONNECT? (I'm not sure if he came over on the Friday night from 9 pm to 8 am.). It dramatically affected my relationship for the worse. I am flaberggasted. But, He won't spend any TIME with me, or sit and talk to me, like when I've been sick or in the hospital. It may make it more difficult to resolve differences or conflicts and the same I don't think it's right, but I think it's true. I just need a bit of support lol anyway, my wife won't be back until 4 PM. He just gets on his computer. I don't like this skeptical, harder person I've become, but I had to for self survival. That's just great! In the main area of the house there should be 2 colors, and now there are at least 5. And, yes, I am 100% sure it's not all ADHD. 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